Every once in a while the motivator needs motivating too. And that's OK.
Appreciation- both giving and getting--- is felt so very deeply and feeds the soul. Practice it.
We can't go over it. We can go around it. We can't go under it. We must go through it to understand it, appreciate it and learn from it.
Don't be a scorekeeper in any relationship. No one ends up winning.
Hearing the voice of a loved one-- near or far-- fills my heart with immeasurable joy. Call 'em.